Your Cock is too Small – You Don’t Deserve Sex

Good girls always tell guys their cocks are the perfect size. That’s what they want to hear. What if you tell them what they NEED to hear instead?

Good girls always tell their guys that their size, whatever it is, is… perfect!

But some guys know that isn’t true.

As with every heavily laden taboo, there is a huge payoff for violating it sometimes. Guys are always worried about their size. Sometimes it’s really hot to play to that fear and use it. Some guys are just “too small” to please you. Why not let them know? That’s why you think they should be in a cage, or why you need another lover, require them to wear the Hulking device (penis sleeve), or just require a lot more oral sex. If you tell some guys they “don’t measure up,” it really turns them on when you tell it like it is.

I’m looking for good ways to put that. Gentle, or not so gentle, reminders, to your guy that he isn’t quite man enough to please you by himself in “that way.”

For example, if he wants to know why he should use the Hulk, you say, “Well, it isn’t that you aren’t fine, it’s just that I sometimes need a little more!” Or, “Well, that thing is so big it just makes me come more.” Or when a guy asks you what you used to see in another boyfriend, you demurely say, “well, he was really big, and that really did something for me.” If your guy responds anything like, “I’m not big enough for you?” or “You don’t like it as much with me?” you say, “You do other things really well. Sex isn’t everything!”

Any time your guy fishes for compliments about his size or displays any uncertainty, instead of giving him what you know he WANTS, give him what he NEEDS. Give him the subtle message that no, he really isn’t quite enough in that way for you – you might like a little more “now and then.” Or you could playfully refer to his cock as his “clit,” “clitty,” or clitoris. You could say you “love the size of his clit!”

Most guys will never dare to ask this, but if yours does ask you whether another lover was as big as, or bigger than, him, you say, “not when he was soft!” Or if you really want to tease, you say, “he was way bigger than you even before he got hard. I really liked that!”

“You never had that reaction to me!” or “You never said that about me” could be met with, “Well, you never could quite do that for me. It isn’t your fault – he’s just… bigger.” “Did you come?” Or, “why do you think you didn’t come?” could meet with the obvious responses – “It isn’t really your fault, I just… need a little more!”

I’d love to hear other ways to deliver the message. What have you heard? Or thought at times?

A Call to Kink

I’m a live and let live kind of girl. BDSM sex is normal behavior and can give you more pleasure than vanilla sex. You should try it.

I am a believer in, “to each his or her own.” If it isn’t hurting someone else or creating bad things in the world that will hurt someone else, and people like doing it, then why not cheer it on? There are so many things going on in the world, and so many possibilities that one can, or might, explore, that it is almost impossible to decide what is really normal or healthy behavior. It’s a waste of time trying to do that, and a waste of life to hold yourself back from exploring.

Readers of my blog or writing know that I frequent some of those worlds of possibility. One of those is the “Woman’s World.” I also spend a lot of time in the world of cuckolding.

On the surface, I know, it seems that the worlds I create with my writing are hurting people, and there is a nefarious plot behind the It’s a Woman’s World series. It might be hard for the button-down crowd to see It’s a Woman’s World as serious literature that happens to involve a lot of kinky d/s (domination/submission) sex as a serious piece of literature, but it is one. I call it erotica, but it might also be considered a very dark psychological thriller.

But I digress.

My point is that for the most part the characters in my stories are making free choices. Some are happier than others, maybe, but these choices are almost all (at least) within the reaches of normal behavior. Every woman must at some time have fantasized about making love to someone else in front of the fascinated gaze of someone whose intense desire she wanted to stir. We all think that having people mad with desire for us, while we pick and choose whom, if anybody, we wish to please, is erotically stimulating. And almost every – if not actually every – man has at times fantasized about seeing his woman with another man. It’s wired into us.

Either as a pleasure or as punishment. And the weird thing, as we all know, is that there is a place where erotic pleasure and pain seem to merge. BDSM fantasies are one such area, and for many men that means the cuckold fantasy. Feminization is a step further out there, with “forced” being implied as a sort of permission. Isn’t that what submission is all about anyway? Permission to do what taboo forbids.

There is a chemical reason for this. Everyone has heard of endorphins, the pleasure-giving substance that our bodies create at times. Well, our bodies create it in response to weird things (like the smell of vanilla, for example), sexual pleasure, and pain. It appears that our bodies counteract painful situations by releasing pleasure-giving endorphins. That creates the paradoxical effect of pain giving sexual pleasure, and when that pain and its accompanying endorphins are combined with other sexual stimuli that are physically pleasurable, the pleasure can be significantly greater than the pleasure given in straight, non-kinky sex.

And that is why, I am convinced, so many people who taste d/s sex never fully lose the taste for it in the future. In a way, that makes my stories and those like them, dangerous. But no one ever needs to do anything they don’t want to do. Freedom is dangerous, in a way, but it’s what life is all about, too.

Enjoy yourselves. Let yourselves experience things on the fringe. Don’t hurt yourselves or other people, but check out another world. You might find an incredible amount of pleasure and satisfaction if you do. Spread the word!

Cocksucker – Haunted by a Past Decision


Would you Suck Another Man’s Cock for your Woman?

After his previous relationship ended with heartbreak and shattered desire, Barry swore he would never make the same mistake again, would never share his new love, and would never touch another man.

It had started out fine – he had humored his fiancee’s desire to try a different man with a larger cock – “just to see how it would be.” Well, she liked it so much that she mostly wanted her new guy. When that finally soured, the whole relationship ended.

So Barry swore never to let it happen to him again.

But his past found him out

Barry was spending a pleasant evening with his new fiancee when Tony, the man who had been involved in previous escapades, suddenly showed up. He took an interest in Laurel, Barry’s new love, and she was instantly attracted to him.

The past comes out, and Barry is trapped in it once again. Soon he’s doing everything he swore he’d never do again and finding his mouth full of something he never wanted to taste again.

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Committed to the New Job – It’s a Woman’s World, Part 2

its a womans world Part2

A Diabolical Story of Forced Feminization, Intrigue and Power

This is Part 2 of the series. If you have not already purchased part 1, you may want to get the “Complete Story – A Woman’s World – The New Job,” which includes this Part 2.

If you’re interested in a diabolical tale of feminization, ruthless domination, and the conversion of an ordinary guy into a submissive, feminized worker, you’ll like this story.

And if you like Powerful and Erotic Sex Scenes, you’ve Come to the Right Place!

Because there are a few that will turn on anybody who likes domination and submission, whether you’re dom or sub.

And you’ll find out who the mysterious “clients” are.

His Desperation Sets Him up to be Feminized by a Ruthless Firm

Peter is a guy who needs a job, badly. He’s been out of work for several months, money is getting short and credit card bills are getting big. His wife, Christine, is putting on the pressure. Then all the sudden it looks like some good luck has come his way. Christine has found a job opening advertised in a women’s magazine.

He interviews, only to face a series of difficult and confusing conditions which require his immediate agreement or the loss of his job. His compromises are constantly portrayed and documented as requests granted by management. And he finds himself writing down “notes” that put him in a worse and worse position.

He’s Required to Cross-dress and Faces Constant Humiliation

In order to get this job, which does advertise good pay and benefits, Peter is presented choice after choice forcing him into a corner. It starts with “neutral” clothing which can’t include men’s clothes, and goes from there.

He’s thoroughly Turned into “One of the Girls”

Peter is expected to undress in the presence of the women of the office, they touch him freely in the most intimate places, but then he’s disciplined for showing off his inadequate “member,” leading to his greatest humiliation yet. He’s given perfume to wear and unlabeled vitamins to take…

A Woman’s World, Inc., Markets to Women – Although What they Sell Isn’t Clear

Peter isn’t told exactly what products or services AWWI provides, and the people identified as clients are silent, wistful, and kept out of sight. Peter just knows he’ll have to know all of the female products from experience, and he finds himself dressed in g-strings and heels, all while being reassured that they are as gender-neutral as possible…

Peter keeps expecting Christine to take his side, but her acceptance of the strange conditions imposed by AWWI, and her insistence that Peter keep the job, keeps the pressure on.

Meanwhile, Christine is Turning into a Dominatrix who likes BDSM

Christine, who hadn’t been very sexual with Peter for years, suddenly begins to initiate hot sex. It can get desperate and uncomfortable for Peter, and her delight in squeezing his balls, spanking and pegging him, and making him ask her to hurt him keeps him off guard.

But he does find her new assertiveness attractive nonetheless.

It’s a Woman’s World – The New Job”

Committed to the New Job is a story of forced feminization, intrigue, power, sex and denial. It’s the first in a series that will explore what happens when Peter takes a job with a marketing firm that specializes in serving women and immediately start to feminize Peter so that he can “fit in.”

It doesn’t end with cross-dressing, humiliation, and feminization. It explores poor Peter as he is forced increasingly into a female-led relationship with a dominatrix. When a chastity cage is put on Peter to keep him from displaying his “clitoris,” Christine goes wild, teasing him mercilessly, laughing at him, pulling him around by the balls, and dominating him in every way.

Cuckold Cleans the Cum

Cuckolding is a special relationship about power, loss, humiliation, and love. Making your cuckold lick up your lover’s cum is one of the most powerful parts.

Cuckolding, at least as I mean it, is not simply just enjoying another guy while you’re married. That could be “cheating” or “swapping” or being in an “open relationship,” or something like that. Cuckolding is more about the relationship you have with your husband while someone else is with you. Specifically, he’s your sub – he’s submissive to you – and he gets off on the fact that you look outside the relationship for someone who is more dominant than he is. Or he might, as in the case of my husband, simply be turned on by my going with other men and being pleasured by them – I’m never a sub.

Anyway, the challenge for us women who are into cuckolding is to keep twisting that knife in our husband’s heart. That sounds cold, but it isn’t. What is more smoking than looking your husband in the eye as he watches you taken by another man and brought to orgasm? What’s hotter than petting your husband’s poor, caged, limp and soft dick while another guy penetrates you with his big, hard one? Or from his perspective, what’s more thrilling than watching your woman’s face as she begins her orgasm?

If he’s caged, you know your husband would be hard if you’d let him! But you don’t, and that compounds the loss he already feels as he watches you being taken. And it’s this loss that turns him on more than anything else.

He thrives on the powerful mix of feelings, the way people used to mix uppers and downer drugs, I guess. Anyway, it’s just as addictive for the guy who starts down that path. And for the woman, it is also a rush – a rush of power, being powerfully desired by two men, but only needing to pleasure one, the power of dishing out such a strong mixture of feelings for your husband or boyfriend, the power of controlling him. And of course the sensual pleasure of having different lovers, often more than one at a time.

But I digress! My point here is that cum is the height and essence of your husband’s humiliation. Watching it jet into his wife’s pussy, or drip out of it, is hardwired into the average man as the most powerfully negative thing there is. And when it’s combined with a passionate love of the woman doing it, it gives him a rush like none other. So make him watch that, and then make him experience it in more than one way. Rub his face in it, so he feels and smells it.

And make him lick it up so he tastes it and also participates in the humiliation. Make him end up with the sperm that violated him by going into your pussy. Make him make you cum again while he cleans you up so that he feels, again, how powerful it all is to you and how good it feels for you. Combining that with the frustration of keeping him locked will make him all the more powerfully addicted to the experience and to you.

So make him lick you clean every time. It seals your relationship all the more powerfully, pleases your lover, and feels good for you.

Feminization, Cross-dressing, Submission, Sissies, and Forced Feminization

Is Any of this BDSM?

As many people reading this will know, I have recently published It’s a Woman’s World, Parts 1 and 2 (combined in one volume)(at; at It is a story involving a fiendish series of events leading to the increasing “feminization” of the protagonist, Peter Sartorius. He’s forced in a variety of ways to take on the role of a submissive woman, first at work, and eventually at home, and the process is a sort of psychological study.

Many of my followers on Pinterest call themselves “cross-dressers,” others who call themselves “sissies,” and many others who fall in various places on the d/s (domination/submission) spectrum. Many of these have cuckold fantasies, which were originally my entry into this world.

A Personal Note

If I may be personal for a second, I have found it hot to make my husband dress in panties when he witnesses me with another man. Originally, that was because of the other man’s desire, as a sort of indication that everything we were doing was consensual and safe, and that Alex wouldn’t suddenly go “postal” on us. But yes, it became more than that because it came to symbolize Alex’s helpless submission to my dominance. It symbolized my power over him, and my availability and “safety” to my lovers. A Pavlovian response was inevitable, I suppose, and now I just think it’s sexy as hell and am not sure why.

Feminization for Men

What it has meant to Alex is more complicated. He loves women, so the obvious thought that his being required to dress up as a woman was some sort of per se humiliation doesn’t work. There is a heterosexual stereotype in play, I think, though. There’s a sense that one of us is the “man,” signified by dominance and free sexual access to the “woman,” more complexly signified. And then there’s the man stripped of his manhood and power, forced to be a feminized onlooker watching his woman be satisfied by the (other) man. Doesn’t that just make you tingle? A little? Be honest!

Feminization and Power

It made me tingle in a way much different than vanilla group sex because of the POWER element. And it makes my Pinterest followers tingle. There’s an element of coercion, but mostly it is voluntary. Alex most definitely does not feel “pretty” when he’s forced to wear panties, nor does he feel feminine. He’s not interested in other men sexually. What he does with them is an expression of my will over him. What he does to the other men is an expression of our relationship, and if he is required – as he often is! – to please other men, he views it as a form of sex with me.


Cross-dressers on the other hand, get something else out of what they do. Many of them say they do it in response to feeling “pressured.” If you’re one of these, I’d love to hear more about this. What sort of pressure is relieved by cross-dressing?


Maybe it’s the desire to be a “sissy.” A sissy is a guy who dresses very provocatively as a woman. He’s not “just a woman,” he’s a “slut.” Many wear high heels, tight dresses, makeup, and other things in an effort to look like a woman. And a lot of them are very hot! Many of them fantasize about fooling other men and having sex with them. A lot of them may fantasize about being forced into doing it, but as far as I can tell, it’s what they want. They like having sex with men. Alex isn’t like that, but I’d like to see someone who is in action.

Forced Feminization – Forced to Submit by Power from Outside

Forced Feminization is something else. In It’s a Woman’s World, Peter does not want to become womanly at all at first. He hates being made to wear women’s clothes and fulfill “women’s roles” at the job. He does it for economic reasons which gradually become more and more blurred as the process continues. And who is causing it all to happen? Why are they doing it? That’s the big mystery of the story and gives it some real intellectual content and an interesting story.

But being forced to submit and then gradually giving in to the process as it changes your character and options in life is a much more fundamental psychological drama, played out by almost all of us. Many people allow themselves to be changed by their jobs. Peter, dressed in miniskirts and heels, with his cosmetics and sculpted pink nails, is just more obvious than most.

Safety in kink – Femdom vs Male Dom

Male and female doms in bdsm relationships must keep safety in mind, but safety from whom?

Safety is a Main Concern of All Doms

Safety is a different issue in fem dom from male d/s relationships. This article explores the question of safety from both perspectives. It is not for the faint of heart.

I had a conversation yesterday on Twitter (several exchanged tweets, anyway – you can find mine by clicking on my tweets at yesterday with a (male) dom in which we discussed safety issues. I said it was unfortunate that the we (dom’s) had to consider “safety” in our play, and John@domjohnlocke mentioned our responsibility as doms always to consider the safety of our subs. We found ourselves speaking at cross-purposes for a while, but then I realized that one of a femdom’s major responsibilities is to manage response from the outside world, whereas a male dom primarily worries about things he might do to the sub physically.

Of course all safety is a primary concern, always, for the dom. Part of the d/s relationship is that the dom does take on the question of safety for both, while the sub relinquishes much of that responsibility (other than using “safe-words” where open consent has not been given). And even open consent, which is the allowance of the dom to do virtually anything within his or her range of desires, does not completely eliminate a sub’s responsibility for self-safety. But within those broad limits, the question that interests me is, safety from what or whom?

Remember that the discussion that follows is generalized, and particular relationships can be far different.

A Male Dom’s Main Safety Concerns for Female Subs

A male dom worries primarily about managing and balancing the amount of physical pain he subjects his female sub to from his own hands. Women subs will say they want any amount of pain, and their tolerance of it and desire for more can be incredible. The dom has to find the range that is limited by what the sub can actually, physically stand and enjoy, balancing control and discipline. The relationship can be like an actually loving, but super harsh and disciplinarian parent. Remember, the sub wants the pain and discipline and experiences joy and satisfaction from it – to a point.

A Female Dom’s Main Safety Concerns for Male Subs

A female dom has some of the same concerns as male doms do and must keep the sub’s well-being and needs in mind. But we have an additional task.

As 50 Shades of Gray demonstrated, there is actually a great deal of social acceptance for male domination. Within limits not even approached by that book, men are expected to dominate and control women. Women who submit are not reviled – they are often lauded, although sometimes they are pitied. Among other things, this all means that male dominance often does not take the form of public humiliation.

It’s different as a female dom. Because men are “normally” in the dominant role, men who are subs are actually often disrespected, ridiculed, and attacked. In fact, without going into it in great detail here, it is the subjection to public scrutiny and contempt that does light the fire of many or most male subs. If you’d like to see some examples of that, you can check out my Pinterest account. [These images are extremely graphic! They are “NSFW” – not safe for work, and definitely not for the faint of heart. Be warned.] Note how frequently another person is involved – used as a foil – in the domination.

Most of the d/s in which I am involved does in fact involve the presence of third parties, and this creates a major safety issue. Because male subs are disrespected (rather than pitied, as female subs can be by unknowing observers), they can be attacked and hurt by other people. Male submission is distinctly more “taboo,” as is much of what they are required to do, and this can excite homophobic or other hostile responses). At the same time, it is my duty (lovingly fulfilled!) to achieve the humiliation my sub craves by exposing him to other people’s possible ridicule while protecting him from unintended consequences that can stretch far beyond the bedroom.

My stories never explore the delicate balance that must be achieved, but in real life safety is paramount and NEVER ignored.

I would love to hear what you think of this article. Please like, leave a comment, and let me know what you think!