Pegging is, like Hulking, another of those activities that can be fun in either vanilla or domination/submission sex. Or maybe I should say that it’s fun even if you do not typically dominate your male partner.
So what, exactly, is “pegging?” It’s using a strap-on dildo on a harness to give your guy anal sex. The strap-on functions as a surrogate cock. As a woman, you might think you should keep the dildo small, but my experience is that a lot of men prefer them bigger, both for visual and physical effect. My favorite one is about seven inches long and normal human width. After all, the hole it is invading can handle the size, and it only takes being gentle for a few minutes until everything is adjusted.
What really makes pegging work is that the dildo either rubs – or if you use the vibrator function – vibrates, the prostate. This seems to be connected to all the sexual pleasure nerve endings. If you stimulate it enough you can, even without ever touching the penis and without its getting hard, trigger an orgasm. He can be as soft as a bunny! And women, a “soft-cock ejaculation” is fascinating to behold, although most guys who are not dominated will not want this.
I like to call an orgasm where you never touch the penis a “sissygasm,” since a guy experiencing it takes his pleasure completely passively and orgasms from penetration. However, if you’re not in a d/s relationship, it might be a bad idea to tell your guy you just gave him a sissygasm!
Guys can be so touchy!
If you give your guy a sissygasm, you have a couple of choices. To an extent, it’s going to be a ruined orgasm no matter what, since he’ll feel the lack of penis-stimulation eventually. But if you leave the dildo in there for very long after the orgasm starts, you will give him much of the satisfaction of a real-man’s orgasm, and this means that his blood pressure will drop, and he’ll feel satisfied at least for quite a while. This will have an immediate impact on his willingness to serve or continue. With that in mind, you will sometimes probably want to do just as you would in ruining any other orgasm – stop! Pull the thing out and turn it off just as soon as you think he’s about to come. If you do that, you’ll have him eating out of the palm of your hand – eating anything you want to give him to eat, which in my case is always whatever cum he does manage to spew. It’s just a principle.
But if you aren’t into d/s, you will want to handle the thing like a normal handjob, and when he comes you’ll do just as you normally do – either squeeze him out or suck him dry while still letting the dildo vibrate. That will give him an extra powerful orgasm.
I think that pegging is, from a woman’s point of view, always a domination experience. You’ll be controlling him, poking and prodding him to your heart’s content, using the dildo as an extension of yourself to deliver whatever pleasure you desire and can deliver. You can use the vibrator and set it so that it delivers vibrations to you, which can be nice, but in a way that’s just a distraction if you plan to make him come. What really makes the experience work for a woman is the feeling of being in charge. It’s a rush, and while it may not bring an orgasm, in a way there’s nothing sexier feeling than power.
If you’re a guy, you can find sissygasms addictive. My husband says that after I did it to him a few times he started fantasizing about being pegged as much as about being allowed out of the cage. Or even more. It wasn’t long before I had him doing all sorts of things he’d always sworn he’d never do!