“Venge-fucking” is one concept I’ve never quite understood, and I’m not even sure if people mean the same thing by it. Can you help me understand?
This comes up because of a response to my post about Hulking, which as I said, is excellent either for dom/sub play or for straight vanilla play as long as the guy can tolerate the thought that his equipment, while perfect, might still be changed to give some variety and other experiences. I’ve done it both ways, and let me tell you, it’s delicious either way.
But I digress. One guy said that if presented the Hulk he’d “throw it across the room and venge-fuck the woman,” “hurting us both.” I took that as a sign that he would NOT be the sort of guy you would give the Hulk to play with. But that got me thinking. What’s the point of a “venge-fuck?”
Is it to hurt the other person, like rape? Or is it to humiliate them in some way by using them? To cap it off, are you supposed to say something hateful to ruin the experience for the other person? And is it something a woman does to a man? Or is it just an act of quasi-violence done by men who aren’t quite brutal enough to rape the woman? What’s the point?
As a woman, I sometimes might give a “mercy” fuck, either to soften some other piece of bad news or to make a guy I actually care about feel better. I don’t do that so much anymore, but… I could under the right circumstances. And then there’s just a wide variety of times I might have sex for various reasons, but I ALWAYS think I’m giving the guy a good time, so what could possibly be vengeful about that?
If you’ve done it before or talked to someone who has, can you tell me a little bit more about this venge-fuck stuff?