Getting Hubby Ready for More

I’ve enjoyed getting hubby ready for dates – as my new girlfriend. #feminization, #forced-fem

Feminizing Hubby

As I have alluded to already, Alex wasn’t a completely good boy for me during the time I was sick, and this gave me an excuse to try something I’ve been meaning to do for a while now. It’s all this writing about forced feminization! I guess lots of the things we’ve done might count as that, considering all the ways I have him “help” me – from getting dressed for dates to, umm, “entertaining” them. I do love to get him to help me pick out my clothes (especially the lingerie) we both know will be used to seduce other men. Before I got sick, I’d even taken to having him help me with hair-care (shaving), and having him give me manis and pedis before the dates, too.

But I’ve thought it might be nice having him accompany me a little more often on dates or pickups. Of course, if people thought he was a guy it might cause hesitation with guys not into that, so I’ve been playing with the thought: what if he went with me as a girlfriend? Would that be fun?

He’s never been into cross-dressing. Sure, I have often made him wear panties or stockings when I went on dates – or when I brought them home – but that was mostly to make the other guys feel more comfortable, you know? Or to remind Alex what was happening after I’d left. Last night I thought we might try something a little more fundamental.

“Come here, Alex,” I said.

We Reach an Agreement

He came over, and I gestured in a way he understood. He pulled his pants down to show me his cage.

I gestured a little further, and everything came off. He’s well-trained by now, even if he isn’t above taking advantage of a situation from time to time. When he was standing in front of me with nothing on but the cage, I went to my lingerie drawer and pulled out a g-string and handed it to him. He put it on without complaint.

Next came the bra which I ordered a month or two ago. It’s big enough to fit around him and has nice inserts, too. I put that on him, and he began to look at me with a question in his eye. As is usually the case, I wanted to see how far he would let me go before actually resisting. It amazes me how far he does, and on went the bra without complaint. Next came the blouse and skirt and more alarmed looks, but he obediently stepped into the skirt even though he was somewhat reluctant.

Feminization is Easy!

This stuff is easy! I created a whole elaborate set-up to get Peter to do this in It’s a Woman’s World, and here was Alex just quietly going along with everything I did without a struggle at all! Of course, we’ve had our struggles in the past, so he knows that resistance is futile.

He did resist a little bit when he saw me get out my cosmetics. Or he kind of pulled back, anyway, so I began talking to him. “You took advantage of my illness in several ways, didn’t you, Alex?” I asked as I pulled him closer and began applying the foundation to his face. I think that was the moment of truth right then. If he’d pulled back again and said he didn’t want it before I got the foundation on him it would probably have ended right there – but that’s the way it always is, isn’t it, guys? You can’t decide you don’t want it in time to resist, so we just get our way.

He stammered a little bit about whether he’d done anything wrong while I was sick as I put the foundation on him, and then he began to argue that the little things he’d done didn’t justify serious punishment. It isn’t like I’d gotten out the riding crop! So we argued as I put the makeup on him. I let him say whatever he wanted to say as I tweezed his brows and put the mascara on him, then shushed him as I put on the lipstick. He was ready by the time we’d finished the argument! I wouldn’t say he was exactly ravishing, but he’d do for where we were going, and with the wig on he looked very feminine. No one would recognize him or mistake him for a man in the light we’d be in. That was the important thing.

It was a nice night at the club, and I think Alex made several new friends who will be looking for him next time we go!

Pegging and Sissygasms

Pegging and sissygasms – a fun game for d/s or even vanilla couples. Give your guy a sissygasm

Pegging is, like Hulking, another of those activities that can be fun in either vanilla or domination/submission sex. Or maybe I should say that it’s fun even if you do not typically dominate your male partner.

So what, exactly, is “pegging?” It’s using a strap-on dildo on a harness to give your guy anal sex. The strap-on functions as a surrogate cock. As a woman, you might think you should keep the dildo small, but my experience is that a lot of men prefer them bigger, both for visual and physical effect. My favorite one is about seven inches long and normal human width. After all, the hole it is invading can handle the size, and it only takes being gentle for a few minutes until everything is adjusted.

What really makes pegging work is that the dildo either rubs – or if you use the vibrator function – vibrates, the prostate. This seems to be connected to all the sexual pleasure nerve endings. If you stimulate it enough you can, even without ever touching the penis and without its getting hard, trigger an orgasm. He can be as soft as a bunny! And women, a “soft-cock ejaculation” is fascinating to behold, although most guys who are not dominated will not want this.

I like to call an orgasm where you never touch the penis a “sissygasm,” since a guy experiencing it takes his pleasure completely passively and orgasms from penetration. However, if you’re not in a d/s relationship, it might be a bad idea to tell your guy you just gave him a sissygasm!

Guys can be so touchy!

If you give your guy a sissygasm, you have a couple of choices. To an extent, it’s going to be a ruined orgasm no matter what, since he’ll feel the lack of penis-stimulation eventually. But if you leave the dildo in there for very long after the orgasm starts, you will give him much of the satisfaction of a real-man’s orgasm, and this means that his blood pressure will drop, and he’ll feel satisfied at least for quite a while. This will have an immediate impact on his willingness to serve or continue. With that in mind, you will sometimes probably want to do just as you would in ruining any other orgasm – stop! Pull the thing out and turn it off just as soon as you think he’s about to come. If you do that, you’ll have him eating out of the palm of your hand – eating anything you want to give him to eat, which in my case is always whatever cum he does manage to spew. It’s just a principle.

But if you aren’t into d/s, you will want to handle the thing like a normal handjob, and when he comes you’ll do just as you normally do – either squeeze him out or suck him dry while still letting the dildo vibrate. That will give him an extra powerful orgasm.

I think that pegging is, from a woman’s point of view, always a domination experience. You’ll be controlling him, poking and prodding him to your heart’s content, using the dildo as an extension of yourself to deliver whatever pleasure you desire and can deliver. You can use the vibrator and set it so that it delivers vibrations to you, which can be nice, but in a way that’s just a distraction if you plan to make him come. What really makes the experience work for a woman is the feeling of being in charge. It’s a rush, and while it may not bring an orgasm, in a way there’s nothing sexier feeling than power.

If you’re a guy, you can find sissygasms addictive. My husband says that after I did it to him a few times he started fantasizing about being pegged as much as about being allowed out of the cage. Or even more. It wasn’t long before I had him doing all sorts of things he’d always sworn he’d never do!

Venge-Fucking – help me with this here…

I’m curious about what “venge-fucking” is, since any time I do it, it’s good for my partner. I’d like comments.

“Venge-fucking” is one concept I’ve never quite understood, and I’m not even sure if people mean the same thing by it. Can you help me understand?

This comes up because of a response to my post about Hulking, which as I said, is excellent either for dom/sub play or for straight vanilla play as long as the guy can tolerate the thought that his equipment, while perfect, might still be changed to give some variety and other experiences. I’ve done it both ways, and let me tell you, it’s delicious either way.

But I digress. One guy said that if presented the Hulk he’d “throw it across the room and venge-fuck the woman,” “hurting us both.” I took that as a sign that he would NOT be the sort of guy you would give the Hulk to play with. But that got me thinking. What’s the point of a “venge-fuck?”

Is it to hurt the other person, like rape? Or is it to humiliate them in some way by using them? To cap it off, are you supposed to say something hateful to ruin the experience for the other person? And is it something a woman does to a man? Or is it just an act of quasi-violence done by men who aren’t quite brutal enough to rape the woman? What’s the point?

As a woman, I sometimes might give a “mercy” fuck, either to soften some other piece of bad news or to make a guy I actually care about feel better. I don’t do that so much anymore, but… I could under the right circumstances. And then there’s just a wide variety of times I might have sex for various reasons, but I ALWAYS think I’m giving the guy a good time, so what could possibly be vengeful about that?

If you’ve done it before or talked to someone who has, can you tell me a little bit more about this venge-fuck stuff?

Pegging – Back with a Vengeance!

Pegging is one of my absolute favorite things to do.

I’ve had some awful sort of cold or flu or something that knocked me out of action for over a week. In my last post, several days ago, I announced that I was back. That turned out to be premature. I hate premature anything, as I’m sure you can guess. But we’ll get to that in a little bit.

Anyway, I’d let my hubby out for several days, and he did take some advantage of the fact although much of the time he stayed and helped me when I let him.

I wanted him to take advantage of being out, though, because it makes giving him consequences so much fun. Especially the part where I told him to “do whatever you want!” He very wrongly interpreted that statement to mean he could do whatever he wanted without being punished. He’ll be finding out just how wrong that was tomorrow. I’d meant to bring things home to him a little sooner, but this will probably be fine. He’s back in his cage and has been for several days… simmering, let’s say. I haven’t felt like making much use of him most of the time, although it’s felt good to let him massage me a little bit in the mornings and maybe a couple of times it’s gone a little further than that. He’s had to be very patient and gentle, however.

I haven’t even felt like letting any of my other lovers come over, so there’s been some temptation that way, but so far his tongue has been adequate, and that’s had to be enough for him, too. I love seeing his little thing in that cage desperately (but silently) begging for attention, a little string of precum dripping out. I like to touch the tip of his cage with my finger and see how far I can make that stuff stretch out. He knows I’m making plans when I start playing with him that way, so that makes him even more excited.

He’s ready for pegging now. It’s been a while, so he isn’t quite on the perfect edge for that. After we’ve been doing it for a few days in a row it takes less effort to make him cum from it. Since he’s been off the peg for a couple of weeks and even snuck in an orgasm or two while I was sick, it’s going to take a little more effort to get him back into the saddle. I’ll do that tomorrow and report back. I’m glad to say that I’m ready to start making him do his job a little more. We’ll do pegging tomorrow and may work in a friend or two this weekend. People have needs, after all!