Good girls always tell their guys that their size, whatever it is, is… perfect!
But some guys know that isn’t true.
As with every heavily laden taboo, there is a huge payoff for violating it sometimes. Guys are always worried about their size. Sometimes it’s really hot to play to that fear and use it. Some guys are just “too small” to please you. Why not let them know? That’s why you think they should be in a cage, or why you need another lover, require them to wear the Hulking device (penis sleeve), or just require a lot more oral sex. If you tell some guys they “don’t measure up,” it really turns them on when you tell it like it is.
I’m looking for good ways to put that. Gentle, or not so gentle, reminders, to your guy that he isn’t quite man enough to please you by himself in “that way.”
For example, if he wants to know why he should use the Hulk, you say, “Well, it isn’t that you aren’t fine, it’s just that I sometimes need a little more!” Or, “Well, that thing is so big it just makes me come more.” Or when a guy asks you what you used to see in another boyfriend, you demurely say, “well, he was really big, and that really did something for me.” If your guy responds anything like, “I’m not big enough for you?” or “You don’t like it as much with me?” you say, “You do other things really well. Sex isn’t everything!”
Any time your guy fishes for compliments about his size or displays any uncertainty, instead of giving him what you know he WANTS, give him what he NEEDS. Give him the subtle message that no, he really isn’t quite enough in that way for you – you might like a little more “now and then.” Or you could playfully refer to his cock as his “clit,” “clitty,” or clitoris. You could say you “love the size of his clit!”
Most guys will never dare to ask this, but if yours does ask you whether another lover was as big as, or bigger than, him, you say, “not when he was soft!” Or if you really want to tease, you say, “he was way bigger than you even before he got hard. I really liked that!”
“You never had that reaction to me!” or “You never said that about me” could be met with, “Well, you never could quite do that for me. It isn’t your fault – he’s just… bigger.” “Did you come?” Or, “why do you think you didn’t come?” could meet with the obvious responses – “It isn’t really your fault, I just… need a little more!”
I’d love to hear other ways to deliver the message. What have you heard? Or thought at times?
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I guess there is a real need to be diplomatic. For me it was impotence rather than size – and I had to realise it myself, so I am not sure if I know of any good way to say it – after all, for those relationships where he can get it up and keep it up, she will not want to lose the little bit she is getting. Nice post….not sure if I helped or not!
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Excellent point. A lot of times we try to be diplomatic, and that is often the best for everybody. But sometimes it’s fun to go the other way. There are guys who are turned on by ridicule.
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And now (and I see from these replies that I am hardly alone) I have become one of those guys….but I was not like that when I was just starting out. I had to learn! I suppose it takes time for some of us….but there are different ways this conversation can happen – someone humiliating me erotically is still a potential act of love – it could be done even to someone who is not particularly small. If I am simply being humiliated as an act of honesty, that is reasonable too (more something I need to accept). If it is just someone being mean, that would not be nice at all. But I guess that happens too….
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Hmm. Are you saying it turns you on when a woman humiliates you? Is that what you had to learn?
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Not really. I was always into some kind of humiliation. But I thought my apparatus worked well and fine. I did not realise that I was also fairly impotent. Even if a woman humiliates me, it will not fix that. In fact, I found it really hard to accept that I was the problem in normal love making. Sorry if I have been a bit confusing…
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Someone has recently told you you didn’t measure up?
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It was a while ago now. I have had to get used to the idea – see, it is not always that obvious. I can get hard, and sometimes even stay hard….but then I lose it…and then it comes back etc. etc. I used to think it was because she was not turning me on enough, but it happens regardless….that is what I had to learn. It had been my “fault” (not really the right word, but you know what I mean) all along.
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Great post! This is a hard post for those without the kink to understand. I get and totally get off on it!
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Thank you so much for saying. You’re right – most don’t understand! But if you aren’t quite enough to satisfy your woman, you might… 🙂
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This probably needs to be driven by the man that has this kink (small cock teasing or cuckolding). I actually feel very confident in relative size and ability to please my lovers. However, after I introduce the fantasy and she becomes comfortable with it, there is nothing makes me cum harder than hearing the woman I love telling me she craves a bigger cock…a big black cock.
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You should read my post on hulking – you’d love it, and so would she. Not the post, the act.
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If Nina only knew how much I like her attention to my penis….even if its humiliating me about how I could never get her interested in sex due to my size…I think men are wired to think that if aceoman wants a big one, she’s a total slut. “Good” wives just take what they get…
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I’d like if my wife could tell me that my cock was too small… even if I know that it is in a normal range, I know also that there are many other much fatter and bigger than mine. So I find right that she could say it freely without fear to hurt me.
Isn’t that I like to hear of being inadequate…. no way, naturally I’d never want hear something like about me and as many males, me too have a great fear about this.
But it will mean That she really feels free to be with me and that whatever the reason, she has chosen ME anyway!
I wish modern women will lose all these inhibition brakes as soon as possible!
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Some guys DO want to hear that they are inadequate. It’s hot to be be found wanting, and it implies willingness for other things. Most women are NOT going to lose this inhibition, but that’s part of what makes those of us who are doms so great, right?
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Unfortunately I didn’t find any woman who said easily that would like dominate…. Also this seems another female taboo….
I know a lot of women who leading their marriage relationship but don’t want admit it. Much more they would showing their submission to the husband….
Maybe it could be useful tell that even if it seems that I am in a sub position to my wife, if she enjoys, I am a real male! I don’t care if I’m sub or dom. The only important thing for a male, must be the woman’s pleasure.
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The problem could just be medical. You might talk to your doctor. Lots of people have problems getting it up sometimes.
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